How to Clean Sex Toys: A Material-by-Material Guide for Safe Play

I get asked about toy care more than almost anything else — and for good reason. Proper cleaning isn't just about hygiene; it protects your investment and keeps your body safe. Whether you're storing a glass dildo in River Heights or a silicone vibrator in Osborne Village, the rules are the same: know your material, clean it right, and store it smart.

This guide breaks down exactly how to clean each type of toy, what storage mistakes to avoid, and when it's time to say goodbye to a well-loved piece.

Silicone Toys: The Easiest to Clean

Medical-grade silicone is non-porous, meaning bacteria can't penetrate the surface. That makes it the gold standard for easy cleaning. After each use, wash with warm water and mild, unscented soap. Rinse thoroughly — leftover soap can irritate sensitive skin.

For a deeper clean, especially after anal play or sharing between partners, boil silicone toys (without motors) for 3-5 minutes. You can also run them through the dishwasher on the top rack, no detergent. If your toy has a motor, stick to soap and water or a dedicated toy cleaner spray.

Silicone is durable, but avoid silicone-based lubricants — they can degrade the surface over time. Water-based lube is your best friend here.

TPE and TPR: Handle with Care

Thermoplastic elastomer (TPE) and thermoplastic rubber (TPR) are softer, more affordable materials — but they're porous. That means they can harbour bacteria even after washing. Use a condom over TPE/TPR toys if you're sharing them, and clean them thoroughly after every use.

Wash with warm water and antibacterial soap, then spray with a toy cleaner and let it air dry completely. Never boil TPE or TPR — heat will warp or melt them. Store these toys separately from silicone, as they can react with each other and cause surface degradation.

Replace TPE/TPR toys every 6-12 months, or sooner if you notice any tackiness, discolouration, or odour that won't wash away.

Glass and Metal: Built to Last

Glass and stainless steel toys are completely non-porous and incredibly durable. You can clean them with soap and water, boil them, or even put them in the dishwasher. They're also safe to use with any type of lubricant.

For glass, inspect regularly for chips or cracks — even a tiny flaw can cause injury. If you spot damage, retire the toy immediately. Metal toys should be checked for sharp edges or corrosion, though high-quality stainless steel rarely has issues.

These materials are also temperature-play friendly. Run them under warm or cool water before use for added sensation. Just test the temperature on your wrist first.

Jelly and Rubber: Proceed with Caution

Jelly toys are inexpensive and widely available, but they're the most porous material on the market. They often contain phthalates, which can cause irritation or allergic reactions. If you already own jelly toys, always use a condom over them and wash thoroughly with antibacterial soap and toy cleaner spray.

Jelly can't be sterilized, so don't share these toys even with barriers. Replace them every 3-6 months, or immediately if they develop a strong chemical smell, become sticky, or change texture.

Honestly, I recommend upgrading to silicone when you can — it's safer, lasts longer, and feels better.

Storage Do's and Don'ts

Proper storage keeps your toys clean and extends their lifespan. Here's what works:

• Store each toy separately in a breathable fabric pouch or its original packaging
• Keep toys in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight (heat degrades materials)
• Never store silicone and TPE/TPR toys touching — they can chemically react
• Avoid airtight plastic bags — they trap moisture and encourage mould growth
• Keep rechargeable toys partially charged during long-term storage to protect the battery
• Label storage containers if you share your space — it prevents awkward mix-ups
• Clean toys before and after storage, even if they look clean

When to Replace Your Toys

Even well-maintained toys don't last forever. Replace any toy that shows these signs: discolouration that won't wash off, sticky or tacky texture, persistent odour, visible cracks or tears, motor failure or inconsistent vibration, or battery corrosion. For rechargeable toys, if the battery no longer holds a charge, replacement is safer than repair.

Silicone and glass toys can last years with proper care. TPE and jelly should be rotated out more frequently. When in doubt, trust your instincts — if something feels off, it probably is.

Cleaning Products That Actually Work

You don't need a cupboard full of specialty products, but a good toy cleaner spray makes life easier. Look for alcohol-free, pH-balanced formulas that won't irritate skin or degrade materials. Spray, let it sit for 10-15 seconds, then rinse or wipe clean.

Mild, unscented soap works for most materials. Avoid anything with fragrance, glycerin, or harsh detergents — they can leave residue or cause irritation. For stubborn buildup, a soft-bristle toothbrush (dedicated to toy cleaning only) helps get into textured areas.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Can I use hand sanitizer to clean my toys?
No — hand sanitizer contains alcohol and other ingredients that can degrade toy materials and irritate sensitive tissue. Stick to soap and water or a dedicated toy cleaner.

How do I clean a toy with a motor?
Wash around the motor carefully with a damp cloth and mild soap, avoiding full submersion unless the toy is labeled waterproof. Spray with toy cleaner and wipe dry.

Do I need to clean a brand-new toy before first use?
Yes, always. New toys can carry manufacturing residue, dust, or chemicals from packaging. A quick wash ensures you're starting with a clean surface.

Can I share toys with a partner?
You can, but only if you clean thoroughly between uses or use a fresh condom each time. Non-porous materials like silicone, glass, and metal are safest for sharing after sterilization.